Men On Dating – Timing, Turn-offs and Keepers

Dear Relationship Coach – “We met online and seemed to hit it off right from the start. After he answered my ad, we went on our first date, and it was fabulous. I believe we both felt a strong chemistry and learned a lot about each other. At the end of the evening we agreed to get together again. He called me the next day and we talked for three hours. On our second date, we spent the whole day together. After three dates (and many emails, phone calls) – we were talking on a Thursday night. We had previously discussed plans for Saturday. However, he did not mention it before we hung up. I wasn’t sure of how to handle the situation, so I waited until a day later and left a voice message for him, saying hi. After four days with no word, I left him an invitation to dinner at my place. I never heard back. What happened? What am I supposed to think?” (Confused Female) Continue reading Men On Dating – Timing, Turn-offs and Keepers

Technology And The Loss Of Intimacy

They met in a club and even though he was not her “type”, she agreed to a date because he was nice and she didn’t know how to say “no.” They made plans for tonight to have dinner and see a movie. However, as the appointed time draws nearer, she is frantically thinking of how she can get out of this date. She just isn’t interested in him and never would have said yes if there had been an easy way out. She is dreading an awkward evening of wishing she were home and glancing at the clock. What can she do? Then it hits her, “I Know, I’ll send a message to the Alibi and Excuse Club. They will help me find a way out.” Continue reading Technology And The Loss Of Intimacy

Playing The Dating Game To Win

DATE. The dictionary defines this word as, “an engagement to go out socially with another person, often out of romantic interest.” When two people meet and share a mutual interest in exploring something more, they usually arrange a date. Simple, right? Apparently not.Dating today seems to have taken on a number of different meanings and contexts, depending upon whom you talk to. Many singles verbalize uncertainty about the who, what, when, where and how’s of dating. Somewhere along the way the game changed and the old rules were forgotten or lost. What’s a single person in search of a relationship to do? Continue reading Playing The Dating Game To Win

What Women Want From Men; Dating and Relationships

Dear Dating Coach – I have been dating a woman for almost three months. Lately, I have been confused about her behavior and need help to understand what is going on with us and what I can (should) do about it. Our relationship has gone from her calling me “sweetie” and asking for more intimacy; to telling me that I am pressuring her and need to stop pushing so hard. I have no problem going at whatever pace she is comfortable with, and I have told her this. In the past few weeks she has cancelled plans on several occasions, saying that she needs time to think because she feels afraid and uncertain about things. When I ask her to share her feelings with me, she becomes defensive and asks me to leave her alone. I have told her to do what she needs to and I will be here when she is ready. After several days of no contact she did call and ask me about my weekend plans. This is becoming very confusing. Do you have any ideas about what I could do to break this cycle and/or what she may be afraid or concerned about? Continue reading What Women Want From Men; Dating and Relationships

Falling In Love

Falling in love! What a romantic phrase! What magical words! Does it not bring a smile to your face when you hear those sweet words? It doesn’t bring a smile to my face. I have coldly analyzed that well worn phrase and here is what I have discovered. Continue reading Falling In Love

The Scorecard

Relationships are to women what football is to men. Women like to read about relationships, talk about relationships, dissect relationships, even root for and against them. They argue over trick plays and strategies, and on occasion, offer their insights to close friends once they have proven successful. And just as in football, women also wear protective padding when necessary. Continue reading The Scorecard

Ten Tips To Get Your Man To Commit

You’ve been seeing a man who loves you, whether he uses the word or not. He loves sex with you, but more than that, he loves being with you. Even so, he hasn’t committed himself to you fully. Perhaps he’s still vague about weekend plans, or he hasn’t introduced you to his friends. Maybe he hasn’t asked you to marry him, though you’ve been seeing each other steadily or living together for a long time. Continue reading Ten Tips To Get Your Man To Commit