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We Expect Each Other to "Mind Read" our Needs

Wouldn’t it be nice if your partner just knew what you needed all the time? If at precisely the right moment he would just be there with the perfect compliment or item or whatever without you even asking? Dream on. Even the most communicative of couples are unable to completely anticipate each other’s needs. Continue reading

The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

When it comes to jealousy, not all forms are created equal. In fact, there are definitely extremes. And while sometimes a little jealousy can make a relationship stronger, too much can lead to its imminent implosion. Continue reading

Mystery of the Single Futon

I’m in the bedding department of the hulking Tokyu department store, or depaato in Japanese, which sits above the even more hulking Shibuya train starion in central Tokyo. Imagine Bloomingdale’s set atop Grand Central Station. Continue reading

Are You Relationship Ready?

So, you want to fall in love? You are certainly old enough and moving well along your chosen career path. Many of your friends are either married or in committed relationships. You have grown weary of the singles scene and the solitary life. Therefore, you must be ready, right? Continue reading

Men On Dating – Timing, Turn-offs and Keepers

Dear Relationship Coach – “We met online and seemed to hit it off right from the start. After he answered my ad, we went on our first date, and it was fabulous. I believe we both felt a strong chemistry and learned a lot about each other. At the end of the evening we agreed to get together again. He called me the next day and we talked for three hours. On our second date, we spent the whole day together. After three dates (and many emails, phone calls) – we were talking on a Thursday night. We had previously discussed plans for Saturday. However, he did not mention it before we hung up. I wasn’t sure of how to handle the situation, so I waited until a day later and left a voice message for him, saying hi. After four days with no word, I left him an invitation to dinner at my place. I never heard back. What happened? What am I supposed to think?” (Confused Female) Continue reading

Technology And The Loss Of Intimacy

They met in a club and even though he was not her “type”, she agreed to a date because he was nice and she didn’t know how to say “no.” They made plans for tonight to have dinner and see a movie. However, as the appointed time draws nearer, she is frantically thinking of how she can get out of this date. She just isn’t interested in him and never would have said yes if there had been an easy way out. She is dreading an awkward evening of wishing she were home and glancing at the clock. What can she do? Then it hits her, “I Know, I’ll send a message to the Alibi and Excuse Club. They will help me find a way out.” Continue reading

Playing The Dating Game To Win

DATE. The dictionary defines this word as, “an engagement to go out socially with another person, often out of romantic interest.” When two people meet and share a mutual interest in exploring something more, they usually arrange a date. Simple, right? Apparently not.Dating today seems to have taken on a number of different meanings and contexts, depending upon whom you talk to. Many singles verbalize uncertainty about the who, what, when, where and how’s of dating. Somewhere along the way the game changed and the old rules were forgotten or lost. What’s a single person in search of a relationship to do? Continue reading

What Women Want From Men; Dating and Relationships

Dear Dating Coach – I have been dating a woman for almost three months. Lately, I have been confused about her behavior and need help to understand what is going on with us and what I can (should) do about it. Our relationship has gone from her calling me “sweetie” and asking for more intimacy; to telling me that I am pressuring her and need to stop pushing so hard. I have no problem going at whatever pace she is comfortable with, and I have told her this. In the past few weeks she has cancelled plans on several occasions, saying that she needs time to think because she feels afraid and uncertain about things. When I ask her to share her feelings with me, she becomes defensive and asks me to leave her alone. I have told her to do what she needs to and I will be here when she is ready. After several days of no contact she did call and ask me about my weekend plans. This is becoming very confusing. Do you have any ideas about what I could do to break this cycle and/or what she may be afraid or concerned about? Continue reading

Serial Dating

Serial – “Of, forming, or arranged in a series.”

Dating – “An engagement to go out socially with another person, often out of romantic interest.” Continue reading

Summer Love – Moving On When It's Over

The days are shorter and cooler. A tune begins to play on the radio. You can feel your heart tighten. What used to be just a background melody has become your song, and you are left wondering how and why something so wonderful had to end so fast? The feelings of sadness are almost overwhelming as you reflect on the intense love affair you never expected to find and now feel completely lost without. Continue reading

What Went Wrong? When Relationships Go From Hot To Cold

Everything was great. We had been dating for 6 months. We shared the same interests, felt very at ease together, had (often)  discussed future plans and had even spent some of the holidays together. Our relationship seemed right on track and just right in general. Continue reading


You thought it was love. The real thing. Perhaps the two of you shared the same feelings, but you don’t now, and you’ve just been dumped. You feel as though you’ve been dropped into a cold dark hole. Alone. Life is no longer fun. No one can understand your pain. No one. Continue reading


I still wasn’t sure why she wanted me to drive out to the house but whatever her reasons, I had to do something. Continue reading


A dramatic duet about a beaten wife and her mentally ill sister. Continue reading

The Plan

“That’s right ,” she said sobbing. “You get out of here before I kill you.” Continue reading