Nothing builds a bond between two people like genuine affection and lovemaking. Skin-to-skin touch is very important in romantic relationships. Skin-to-skin touch can be any kind of touch, not necessarily sexual. However, sexual touch is very important to a couple and should be a regular activity. This is sometimes easier said than done.
Although these statistics are for happy couples, the numbers of sexual contacts per week seem low. My recommendation is to double the times you make love and watch how your relationship flourishes. Who wants to stop with one bite? Have the whole thing! It will satisfy both you and your partner.
Words of the Heart
“Grow old along with me! The best is yet to be, The last of life, for which the first was made: Our times are in His hand Who saith, ‘a whole I planned,’ Youth shows but half; trust God; see all, nor be afraid!” — Robert Browning
Affection Is a Must
Receiving affection makes you happier and helps you live longer. Not only that, but is also feels really good. It feels good when you touch someone you love, and it feels wonderful when that person touches you, too.
If you notice a decrease in affectionate touching in your relationship, you need to take action. Trying some of the following suggestions will guarantee a quick increase in affection between the two of you.
- Sleep naked every night. If you have to, keep your door locked. No one but the two of you will know. If you get cold, snuggle closer to your partner or pull on an extra blanket.
- Shower together. It not only saves on the water bill, it also puts a little extra steam between the two of you.
- Ask your partner to kiss you, hold you, and caress you.
- Sit next to each other when you watch television or read.
- Hold your partner when you feel like crying or when you suspect your partner needs to be held.
- Stroke your partner’s hair or face each time you walk past him or her.
- Hold hands when you walk together.
- Kick off your shoes and touch your partner’s feet during meals.
©2000 Nancy Fagan
The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Romance is packed full of information to keep the romance alive in your relationship. Nancy Fagan, Psy.D., Dr. Romance, is a marriage and family therapist specializing in helping people find and maintain healthy relationships. The author of Desirable Men: How to Find Them, she lives in San Diego, CA.