Is the only time you spend with your spouse during the work week, those few hours after coming home from work and before going to bed?
And are those hours taken up by fixing dinner, doing chores and spending time with the children?
If at all possible, do lunch with your wife — or girlfriend if you aren’t married. And you better not be doing lunch with your girlfriend if you are married!
Fortunately, my wife and I worked for the same corporation for many years and we were able to have lunch together several times a week. It was great to connect in the middle of the day and just talk.
Sometimes we talked about things we needed to do at home or talked about work but often we just talk about fun things. We discussed what we wanted to do with our lives, the kind of dream home we would like to have and what we thought about different world issues.
On top of that, nearly every afternoon around 3 o’clock Athena would come up to my office for a 15 minute afternoon break and I would make us each a cup of hot tea and would usually have a couple of cookies or a piece of candy there too. She referred to them as her afternoon “treats.” It was a special time we looked forward to every day.
Of course, most couples do not work in such close proximity to be able to have an after break together, but many couples could certainly get together for lunch more often than they do. If you don’t have time (or the money) to go to a restaurant for lunch, brown bag it.
If it’s not possible to meet for lunch have a “phone date” at lunch. Even ten minutes talking on the phone at lunch will make a marked improvement in each of your afternoons.
The next time either of you complain that you don’t get to spend enough quality time together, suggest, “let’s do lunch.”
Michael Webb is editor of The RoMANtic Newsletter – Hundreds of Tips for Fun & Creative Romance. Visit his website at www.TheRomantic.com.