How Satisfying Is Your Relationship?

The Relationship Satisfaction Test was developed in the 1980s by a Texas psychologist, and is easy to take because it only has seven questions.

But don’t be fooled: Each one requires a lot of thought. Do not rush. For the following questions, circle the number that best rates how you feel about your relationship. See scoring, at bottom.

circle the number that best rates how you feel about your relationship. See scoring, at bottom.

1. How well does your partner meet your needs?

Poorly   Average   Extremely Well
1 2 3 4 5

2. In general, how satisfied are you with your relationship?

Dissatisfied   Average   Extremely Satisfied
1 2 3 4 5

3. How good is your relationship compared to most?

Poor   Average   Excellent
1 2 3 4 5

4. How often do you wish you hadn’t gotten in this relationship?

Very Often   Sometimes   Never
1 2 3 4 5

 5. To what extent has your relationship met your original expectations?

Hardly At All   Average   Completely
1 2 3 4 5

6. How much do you love your partner?

Not Much   Average   Very Much
1 2 3 4 5

7. How many problems are there in your relationship?

Very Many   Average   Very Few
1 2 3 4 5


Add up the numbers you circled.

If your score was 7-25: Your relationship is no Cinderella story. Seventy percent or more of the population are happier in their relationships than you are. If you have invested a great deal of time into your relationship and wish to continue with this person, you must focus on building consensus and openly discussing your needs and expectations with your partner.

If your score was 26-32: Your relationship is about as charmed as that of most American couples’. You and your partner probably have the ordinary ups and downs, but in general you are quite satisfied. There is, however, room for improvement. Review your scores together for clues on which areas need enhancement. Get these issues out into the open, and chances are you and your partner will be able to work things out and obtain greater satisfaction.

If your score was 33-35: You are exceptionally satisfied in your relationship, and scored in the top 30th percentile of all couples. Congratulations on having built a gratifying partnership. While you have all the ingredients for a blissful relationship, be careful about becoming complacent.

Copyright © 2004 Andrew N. Williams

How Do You Compare? Excerpted by permission from How Do You Compare? 12 Simple Tests to Discover Hidden Truths About Your Personality — And Fascinating Facts About Everyone Else by Andrew N. Williams Published by Perigee; March 2004; $13.95US/$21.00CAN; 0-399-52951-9.

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Author: Andrew N. Williams is a nationally known experimental psychologist with more than twenty years of experience conducting research studies for academic, government, and private research firms, and has overseen the administration of interviews to over half a million people. He has written dozens of technical reports, authored journal articles, edited a newsletter, and regularly presents papers at international conferences.