FRIENDS and Lovers

‘Sex & Love’

Is your woman a cunnilingus virgin? Lucky you, it’s your sexual duty to initiate her in the erotic joys of cunnilingus! Read more »

I love chocolates—and I know it’s not only me who has a passion for Hershey’s Kisses and M&Ms. These sweets are believed to be aphrodisiacs and let me say now that I believe it 100%! After all, romance, passion, foreplay, sex… they’re all heavily affected by your mind right? And if you believe that chocolates can help bring out the ‘wild woman’ out of your partner, then so be it! Read more »

This may come as a shock to you but sex is really pretty boring IF you end up following a routine. So how do you avoid this? Don’t be afraid to use your imagination! That is why most people say that the brain – not the genitals – is the most important sex organ. Read more »

Wouldn’t it be nice if your partner just knew what you needed all the time? If at precisely the right moment he would just be there with the perfect compliment or item or whatever without you even asking? Dream on. Even the most communicative of couples are unable to completely anticipate each other’s needs. Read more »

When it comes to jealousy, not all forms are created equal. In fact, there are definitely extremes. And while sometimes a little jealousy can make a relationship stronger, too much can lead to its imminent implosion. Read more »

Unlike what you may see in adult-rated movies, sex in real life can actually be awkward and funny. Slipping, fanny farts and sloppy wet noises are ALL part of making love. You can’t escape them. The trick is of course how to deal with these situations; how you convert the seemingly embarrassing situation into one that’s not. Read more »

There are 101 things that you can do tonight that can make your woman’s blood boil a little hotter. A lot of men think immediately that this involves new and difficult sex positions or even the use of sexual aids but really, just KNOWING which pleasure buttons to hit is all it takes. Read on! Read more »

I’m in the bedding department of the hulking Tokyu department store, or depaato in Japanese, which sits above the even more hulking Shibuya train starion in central Tokyo. Imagine Bloomingdale’s set atop Grand Central Station. Read more »

A sexual massage is just something I LOVE to receive from my partner. It always relaxes my body and my mind, and never fails to stir my center till I’m all wet and ready to have mind-blowing sex! Read more »

Sometimes, in our quest for better foreplay and better sex, we tend to get a bit carried away… to the point that we do things that TURN OFF our partners. Some of these mistakes are not just overzealousness but due to myths propagated in adult films and magazines. Read more »

Sex games can be as easy or as complicated as you want them to be. There are those where you just whip out a sex game board and be done with it in a few minutes – nothing wrong with that! – but there are also those that take some time in its execution. Read more »

One of the ways a woman gives herself a relaxing treat is by soaking in a long, hot bath so you can take this opportunity to really giver her a treat by preparing a bath for her. Of course, with other ‘extra treats’ as only you can provide. Read more »

Is it really so hard to give a woman an orgasm? Many say it’s difficult but many men also claim that it’s very easy… IF you know what to do. So the question is, do you? Read more »

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. It’s a fact that men and women are different and that extends to achieving sexual pleasure as well. Take for instance the topic of orgasms; men reach their climax sooner than women. Period. Read more »

Aphrodisiacs are a love them or hate them kind of thing. Unfortunately, most couples are a mix of both! Take my clients Sam and Cindy for example. Cindy is all for it and even went to great lengths to prepare a 5-course aphrodisiac dinner (do you know how hard that is?!?). Well, Sam appreciated the dinner alright… then went to the living room and turned on the TV! Read more »

According to reports, roughly 70% of women don’t reach an orgasm during intercourse. Although that figure in itself is shocking, it also makes you wonder about how many women never orgasm at all (i.e., intercourse or not)! Read more »

Have you ever seen the TV show the Wheel of Fortune? Well, this sex game is a sexy and naughty deviation of that TV game show. It’s a great way to engage in various lovemaking positions with your partner. And as such, it takes away a lot of the routine and boredom you guys may be experiencing inside the bedroom. Read more »

According to studies, around 75% of women do not reach an orgasm during intercourse. Why? For one, it’s because he or she does not know how to properly sexually stimulate her so she never really reaches sexual tension enough to come. Another reason is this: he comes too fast. Read more »

So, you want to take the initiative this time and want to surprise your girlfriend, wife, or lover with your foreplay skills. But then again, you realize that foreplay hasn’t been your ‘thing’ lately and you’re not sure what to do… Read more »

So who says eating her out is boring? (It never is for HER you know.) But if you and your partner already engage a lot in cunnilingus then you may want to up the heat factor a bit with these hot, erotic, and mind-blowing cunnilingus games! Read more »

As in most things, a little creativity can go a long way to spicing up your relationship. If you think about it, performing fellatio on a guy is pretty straight-forward, but add to that the elements of forbidden places, stolen moment, and the fear of getting caught… well, it could be the best sex you guys have ever had! Read more »

Books on sexual techniques and a selection of sex toys and other intimacy products are available at The Love Shop. Read more »

Do men and women think the same about love and sex? We thought the best way to answer the question would be to ask. Read more »

As pharmaceutical companies continue their quest for the perfect synthetic aphrodisiac, more and more people are experimenting with natural alternatives to enhance their sexual experiences. Read more »

Manzambi and her husband, Remmy, moved from their native Zaire to the United States 7 years ago. At first, they lived with Remmy’s brother and his family in a cramped, dark Brooklyn apartment. Remmy worked 12 hours a day, 6 days a week driving a cab. It certainly was not paradise, but it was a much safer place to raise their daughter than in their war-torn country. Read more »

Damiana is a wild shrub that grows in parts of Mexico, Central and South America, and the West Indies. Recently, it has been cultivated in Texas and California. Its botanical name, Turnera diffusa aphrodisiaca, hints at its reputation as a libido-enhancing plant. The ancient Mayans used damiana for its prosexual properties. And for centuries, Mexican women have been brewing tea from the plant’s leaves to improve their sexual satisfaction. Read more »

Chinese culture is rich in the study and use of aphrodisiacs and sex-enhancing herbs. For centuries, the Chinese people have relied on the nuts and leaves of the ginkgo tree to help improve their sexual vigor, as well as their mental acuity. Read more »

Perhaps the best known of the Chinese herbs is ginseng. It has been used in Asia for more than 5,000 years to boost energy and alertness. It also is known for improving sexual response, increasing sexual energy, and reviving libido. Read more »

Before concluding our discussion of herbal aphrodisiacs, we must mention Avlimil, an herbal formula that is aggressively marketed on radio and TV. Read more »

Great sex is an active ingredient in all healthy love relationships. Sex is fun and pleasure is good for us. Making love is surrendering to a higher form of energy than any one love partner can experience alone. Making love is two love partners experiencing their oneness with each other. Read more »

Want your honey to act like a porn star? Don’t hold your breath. Pornography seriously misrepresents how women feel about sex and themselves. “It amazes me,” says Great Sex advisory board member Dennis Sugrue, Ph.D., “how some men don’t understand that pornography presents a fantasy world, a Neverland that’s very different from the world real people live in.” Read more »

Being newly single means having to sooner or later face the delicate question of whether or not to have a sexual relationship before commitment. As a mature single, the rules and guidelines that guided you in your early single life may no longer apply or they might need updating. For the person whose personal, religious or moral convictions dictate sex within marriage only, there is no answer but one: NO!! Not unless we’re married. For the vast majority of singles the issue of when to enter into a sexual relationship is much more complicated. Read more »

If you have experienced problems in becoming sexually excited, you can actually do a lot to help yourself to sexual arousal with the following program of action steps. If they do not help, it’s a sign that you may need sex therapy with a professional to make sex work for both of you. Read more »

“…is there any greater or keener pleasure than physical love? No, nor any which is more unreasonable.” Plato, The Republic, c. 6th century BC. Read more »

Before the two of you can become physically close you may have to overcome some fears and objections on her part. Strange as it may seem, many women have an unrealistically negative impression of their bodies. They inspect them regularly, know every flaw and complain about them to their friends. She may even mention a few to you. Read more »

Now that the framework is in place for sex in a relationship, it is time to move on to some technique — the art of seduction. This is the best term for it. Unfortunately, it carries a negative connotation. This is historical. Consider Samson and Delilah, Mata Hari, Casanova and Don Juan. The premise in these cases is that one person uses sex with a victim for an ulterior purpose. Read more »

What you talk about is not nearly as important as how you say it. She knows what you’re doing. She wants you to do it. She’s cheering for you. After all, if you’re successful, she wins too. Read more »

Many men believe that menopause involves a few weeks of hot flashes around a woman’s 50th birthday. Menopause actually happens gradually over many years. And while hot flashes — sudden feelings of uncomfortable heat — are a hallmark of menopause, there’s a lot more to it, including important sexual implications. Read more »

Too often people just stick their heads in the sand, hoping the problems between them will just disappear. If you do this, the only thing that will disappear is your intimacy and friendship. You need to face the issue and do something about it. Read more »